Confession Time

I haven’t been blogging as much as I would like to.   Mainly because the frigid temperature and snow ice covering everything is an ENORMOUS buzzkill.  But also because my rides haven’t been too great lately.


It’s not because Mabou hasn’t been a good boy either, which he has.  (He definitely has that Thoroughbred “try”)  It’s because of my best friend’s horse.  My good friend J and I always try to coordinate our ride times, because what’s more fun than riding with your friend.  Why is someone else’s horse affecting my ride, you ask.

To help you understand I am going to rewind a bit…… J has had her horse 8 years or so.  The first time she tried to take him on a hunter pace she was airlifted by helicopter and had rods put into her arm after breaking it so severely, and the rest of her ownership of him has mirrored that experience.  He has a nasty buck, is very slow and will buck you off if you ask him to go forward, and just basically doesn’t want to work whatsoever.  (he has no medical issues, he is just a S.O.B.)

So throughout her ownership of him, she has been scared of him and he has her number.  This year I have been riding him often for her (and generally have to get on him to tune him up so that she can get on).  It’s not that he is never good, he does have his moments (see below pic) it’s just that you cannot relax for a second because you literally never know when the next buck or spin is coming.  It’s tiring always having to be on the defense knowing the horse wants to get you off.


We have tried everything, being harsh with him and working him until he was tired (doesn’t work, as he just gets pissed off when he is tired), to going on walking trail rides where nothing is asked of him (during which he bucks, rears, and tries to take off at random intervals throughout with no apparent cause).  Friend can only walk horse on the trail in a western saddle so that she can grab the horn and stay on.  Doing anything more than a walk on trail is out of the question because he will start trying to buck or take off.

It is hard for me to watch my good friend be bullied by her horse and afraid, and frustrates me when I have to get on him (which I of course am going to do because I don’t want my friend to get hurt), which then is hard to snap out of when I get back onto Mabou.

The good boy
The good boy

So today, I didn’t text my friend what time I was going to ride and I went and rode Mabou and had a wonderful ride.  There was no distraction for me, I wasn’t worried about what was happening to my friend (if she was getting bucked off on the other side of the ring etc).

She will never sell her horse, as she loves him and with his temperament, he may not end up in a great home, so this is mainly just a vent.

It just stinks that I can’t do fun horse things with my friend.  Over this past summer she borrowed one of trainer’s sale horses and we went on the most fun trail rides, galloping through the fields, jumping all kinds of things, without a care in the world. This sale horse would be her perfect horse, she’s a bomb proof paint mare that is very sensible and one of the sweetest kindest horses I have ever known.  Friend can’t afford to have two horses.

my sister (who has only ridden a handful of times) taking the sale mare out on trail with me
my sister (who has only ridden a handful of times) taking the sale mare out on trail with me

Anyone else have to deal with a horse that was just downright mean?  What did you do?

11 thoughts on “Confession Time

  1. Life is too short for owning a horse that acts like an ass. Safety first. It’s too expensive of a hobby to not enjoy every minute in the saddle on your horse. Occasional naughtiness is fine, but this horse sounds like he has bad character. It would be devastating if he really, really hurt someone. Sounds like your friend is in a codependent & dysfunctional relationship. Don’t mean to sound so harsh but I am older and hopefully wiser. Watch the documentary Buck.


  2. I totally agree with you. I have compared him to an abusive boyfriend before. I’ll check out the documentary and recommend to my friend as well. Thank you for your insight 🙂

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  3. what an unfortunate situation, all around 😦 wishing your friend the best of luck (and maybe suggest you forward her the SprinklerBandit’s recent ‘ammy manifesto’ blog post?)


  4. This makes me so sad to hear! Like another said, life is too short to settle for situations like this. I know certain factors prohibit change, but still I hope for the best for your friend, and you as well!


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